I see flirting as a potential.

I find in life that women, as a whole, do a lot. We have the children, we cook, we clean, we do laundry, we take a lot of crap from people that we do not deserve. As women, we collectively hope for the best. When it comes to men, we are more than hopeful. We look to the bright side. When a man holds your hand we think "hmm me must like me." When he kisses you we think "ahhh this is going somewhere." He asks you to go out again, then again, and then once more! Women get excited and egger for something to arise. We think that something will come about this. Out assumptions are backed by flirting, and kissing, and hand holding. A sweet side of a boy is shown, so we get hopeful. The kissing progresses. Its now a longer kiss. In a woman's mine, something is going on between you both, and it is looking positive, like a relationship. 

But life throws a curve ball. And men suck. The guy was never looking for a relationship. He was bored and needed something to fill his Friday night. As a woman, we are devastated. All the signs of something positive occurring were present. But alas, nothing. For all that we do, we would like a little something good to transpire from it all.

My perspective: Besides the extremely obvious fact that men as a whole are stupid, stupid human beings, ladies should NEVER give up on a man. Always chase what you want. We are told not to chase men. "Don't 'double text'" or "don't come on too strong" or, my personal favorite, "let them come to you." HA! As a strong woman, if I see someone cute, I WILL go for it. Ladies, there is no shame in that. And don't ever let someone tell you other wise. Boys are too stupid sometimes to do anything about a hot girl. Sometimes you have to be the hot girl that makes the first move. So then you know that no matter the outcome, you know you tried. But, sometimes men just want something to fill their time.

Recently I went out with a guy. We have watched some movies, watched some football, gone to date parties, lots of flirting and cute stuff that you see in movies and only read about in cute books. Blah, blah, blah. Well, we kissed. Just kissed nothing crazy. But the flirting indicated that something could arise. So I went with it. I got hopeful. Just as I got hopeful, the iconic of "I'm not looking for a relationship" was uttered. I would not say I was heartbroken. I have only known the guy for about a month. HOWEVER, no man should ever flirt and KISS a girl MULTIPLE TIMES ON MULTIPLE OCCASIONS without doing anything about it. I would much rather have it if the dude just ignored me and never tried anything. I am not the girl you can use to fill up your boredom with a kiss or two.

Men, I don't know what it is like to be you. I don't know what it is like to walk a mile as a man, nor do I ever know what you fools are thinking. I just hope that you all will begin to be a little considerate of women and what we have to deal with. We look at y'all and see potential! If you look at us and do not see that then you need fix that, and realize that we rock. Having a woman is great. Remember that. Women see flirting as something that could be a potential relationship. Flirting equals he likes me and thinks I'm cute. Get it?

Women, go for guys. Most of them suck. But its okay. Put forth effort when he doesn't. Leave something always knowing you did everything you could. And certainly remember that the right guy is out there. Whether you find him or he finds you, keep looking.

I see flirting as potential. If you flirt with me I will flirt back. I like instant gratification. Don't leave me hanging. Give me something to go off of.

--AMS